How do you make love work?
Carnival has whooshed past, and probably you spent it chipping down the road with your honey. A few of you, however, either played Mas alone, fending off the hound-dogs eager to buss a wine on an unaccompanied female, because your man can’t stand crowds, or fuming alone at home, your hopes for a romantic cuddle-fest dashed, while he ran around town flinging water and powder.
It’s great to have a soulmate, but what happens when your ideas of fun are so diverse that when one of you is having a ball, the other is grinding his teeth?
If it don’t fit, don’t force it
If your idea of a weekend well spent is screaming at horses as they race around the track, while he couldn’t tell a mare from a mule, don’t drag the man to Santa Rosa. He’ll spend the day glancing at his watch and stifling yawns, and you’ll feel guilty, or, worse yet, irritated by his glassy-eyed stares while you try to explain the meaning of “Daily Double”. If he loves breathing the dust left behind by rally cars, while you can’t fathom why grown men squeal like little girls over gold-toned mag rims, you’re better off letting him hit the rally route on his own.
Being in love doesn’t mean you have to live in each other’s pockets. Your every passion doesn’t need to be fully synced for you to be compatible. After all, Jack Sprat and his wife had opposing culinary tastes, and they got along just fine.
Find a hobby-buddy
You don’t have to indulge your passion alone just because he’s not with you. Join an online forum, or link up with friends who are just as into your passion as you are. But be careful; if your hobby-buddy is male, and attractive to boot, you just might be letting your lover’s green-eyed monster out of its cage.
Find common ground
Come on! There MUST be something you and your lover can find to enjoy together—other than the obvious, wink, wink. If neither of you has a hobby or interest that the other appreciates, find one. Take a creative class together. Try something you’ve never tried before. You’re already connected by love; there must be a common yearning inside of you longing to be filled. You just need to find it, run with it, and discover another great reason why you’re meant to be together.
Well, any more strategies to add? Let’s hear ‘em in the comments!
